Becky Who?

Becky Who? And what the hell is she doing here?

Those questions, and more, answered..

I'm 35 now, and I've had 3 children, all boys, ranging in age from 16 to almost 3, with a 12 year old in the middle. My oldest is a student at Vaca High now. Which of course, makes me feel old as dirt. :)
I've been married and divorced, and I am currently enthralled with the love of my life. :)
I've lived in Europe, Texas, Georgia, and afterward came home to go to college, where I studied communications and psychology. I am two classes short of my degree, hopefully that will be fixed within a year.
I'm currently a stay home mom as I am physically disabled, but I am VERY blessed in the life God has given me. I'm blessed to have found a man that can accept me 100% at face value, good and bad, and he loves me as much as I love him. Which he always makes abundantly clear. :) While I would never have chosen to have health issues, it's really given me a much different perspective in life, and I do NOT regret it, nor do I say "Why me?". I know the true answer is "Why not?".
I know I was judgmental as a kid (I think most are to some extent), and for anyone I ever hurt, with anything, I apologize. Truly, and sincerely. I live a life where my only rule for myself is to NEVER intentionally hurt another person. I' try to be as close to non-judgmental as a person can be, as an adult. I truly live a life of "not my business" as long as it does not hurt someone. Because I am a devout believer in it, I practice introspection alot. I believe that the only person who can make me better is me, and therefore, I strive to meet my own expectations before I expect others to. Because of that introspection, I'm a very forgiving person, as long as you don't harm my loved ones. I learned at a young age.. life can be gone, more quickly than we ever realize, and it really IS important what we leave behind. Not money, or homes or cars, but the lives of others, that we've touched. I'm the one all my girlfriends know they can call at any hour, who always listens, and usually gives good advice if asked for it. I'm no suzie sunshine though either! lol I am sarcastic, witty, and quick to laugh. I love to entertain others, and I love to be entertained. My chronic pain doctor got a good laugh at me the other day, and she said "Becky, you always seem so cheerful, why?" I gave her the only answer I have. Tears and laughter are closely linked. And while I cannot always control it, I feel the laughter is more healing. The laughter allows us to use the best in ourselves, still see the worst, and work towards change. It allows us to be responsible for ourselves, and at the same time to apologize when we've wronged someone. It's truly a choice to decide to live from the glass half full or the glass half empty perspective. While I can't always be cheerful, I make it my goal, on a daily basis.
I'm hoping to reconnect with old friends, or make new ones. Life, as it always seems to do, has changed for me considerably this past few years, and I have reached a point, where as a SAHM, I am missing out on the social life of seeing adults on a daily basis, or even just talking to them. I dearly love my boys, and my eldest is one of my favorite people, but nothing replaces the value of a best girlfriend.:)
I am very much, what you see is what you get. I'm down to earth, it's almost impossible to offend me, and I have a seriously bawdy sense of humor:) I'm very secure in myself, and in my relationships. Because of that, I'm not competitive, nor am I likely to ever be. I'm loyal to a fault. (I'm the one most likely to help bury the bodies... lol) which sometimes jumps up to bite me in the ass. I look forward to getting older, and the knowledge it brings.. (yep, no melt down on my 35th:)
In spite of my disability, I try to stay busy:) I am learning to quilt, so that I can help my mother finish the quilts that my grandmother left unfinished, when she passed away in February. I love to create jewelry, it's something that I always look forward to. I also scrapbook. My kids were the reason I started, and I've recently begun doing them for other people, for a profit. (Okay, they pay me, but there is no profit involved! lol, I basically pay for materials! hehe). We recently rented a house, and I have a garden now! We are growing watermelons, strawberries, tomatoes, brussel sprouts, squash, artichokes, and much more, to include over 30 varieties of flowers. :) The baby and I spend alot of time watering, which he's getting very good at! I also can/jar alot. My favorite thing right now is to make our own mild hot pepper jam. I make at least 8 pint jars at a time, and we go through it in like a month! This summer, I will be doing apricot pineapple, strawberry, and who knows what else??!!??:)
We are also looking foward to summer, and family bbq's! The baby's dad and stepmom are a couple of our closest friends (unlikely though it was, email me if you want the story!lol) and they bring her children over. We send all the big kids out back, and put them in charge of the baby, and everyone seems to have an amazing time, since almost all the big kids are teens. Mattie is kind of like an only child, due to his age.
I also have helped to raise 4 teenage girls, who for various reasons, have needed me at some point in their teens. Almost all of them are adults now, and I am SO proud of the young women they have become, and so honored that they choose to keep me in their lives. My personal, if-I-ever-win-the-Lotto, kind of dream, would be to finish my degree, and then open a center/foundation, to help displaced teens. I'd love to buy an apartment complex, to allow for temporary housing, to help them get on their feet. I personally feel that our nation's determination to help other countries instead of our own, is sad. There are so many young teen moms who need someone to help them get started, and young men who've just not been able to find their way, and when there are no programs of quality to help, it's not surprising they turn to violence and drugs so often.
I would also like to lobby to change welfare legislation, to make the system more effective.. well, at ALL effective. I have alot of dreams.. hopefully, medicine will advance, and someday, I can meet my dreams with equal energy!:)
I welcome you to contact me, I've got the Y messenger and go by mystica97 also with the Y dot com.
In the meantime, Take care, tell your loved ones what they mean to you, and live a good life!!
-Becky

--One Hundred Years from now
(excerpt from "Within My Power" by Forest Witcraft)

One Hundred Years from now
It will not matter
what kind of car I drove,
What kind of house I lived in,
how much money was in my bank account
nor what my clothes looked like.
But the world may be a better place because
I was important in the life of a child.





































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